Do you trust on your partner?

[Kazbadan]

Do you trust on your partner (husband, wife, etc)?

These days i see so much cheating that i find hard to trust anyone.

Anyone on his life, sooner or later will cheat the one he she loves. Thats what i think.

What do you think about this?

[El-Bortukali]

Do you trust on your partner (husband, wife, etc)?

These days i see so much cheating that i find hard to trust anyone.

Anyone on his life, sooner or later will cheat the one he she loves. Thats what i think.

What do you think about this?

By anyone you mean you can do it too?
So i guess your partner can't trust ya'

[cainam_nazier]

Anyone on his life, sooner or later will cheat the one he she loves. That's what i think.

What do you think about this?

I do not think that this statement is true.  I never have and never will cheat on the one I love.  It is not in my moral character to allow for this.  In fact it is such a strong feeling in me that I could not even be the "one" that some one cheated with.  If I know , in any way shape or form, that you are in a relationship it just won't happen, and since I am not one to be "casual" in regards to the people that I know it will never happen.

[James S]

Having women problems again are we Kaz?

I seem to remember you raising this subject, or one like it a while back.

Your asking questions that are bound up in social & religious conditioning. Morality can differ from culture to culture.

I've never liked the word "cheating" in this respect.
I mean, how do you actually cheat on your partner?
Do you lie on top of them in bed doing a crossword and keep looking up the answers on the back page? :dont-know:


James

[Kazbadan]

No, i dont cheat on anyone. And i am not only talking about cheating. ITs that i am seing that my i cant trust on my girlfriend. She lies a lot. It will be the end of our relationship.

Starting to get tired of the same thing...i find someone in my life and later i wil know that she is someone stupid enough to trust.

[El-Bortukali]

you don't cheat right now.but who knows,you could  if the oportunity arrived.

If you're tired of that situation you have a simple solution.
Break up with her and don't get another girlfriend.

[InnateBuddha]

like attracts like?

[El-Bortukali]

That's what they say.but they also say that the oposts attract each other lol.

[CFTraveler]

i find someone in my life and later i wil know that she is someone stupid enough to trust.

I think that this is very telling.

[El-Bortukali]

don't be so rough on the guy xD.

[Vivek]

hey...we are all social creatures....monogamy is something we are all forced into due to some screwed up social funda......so polygamy is our game....but to be in a relationship and lie to ur partner is wrong.....but agian we are here to experience all shades of life(from wrong to right)

[Kazbadan]

Its time to come back to the game: seduce a woman, eat her and jump to the next. Thats what women love: to be eaten, lol.

[El-Bortukali]

Can't control those crazy hormones huh?  
 you won't evolve in the spiritual world with that mentality.

Oh yeah,I am a male,but i have to say.it seems you have no idea how a woman really is.well maybe you only deal with indecent women in your life =\

[Kazbadan]

ya, it seems like that. She looked like a very decent woman just to find thats another b****. Believe me that i was sweet with her. I would try to seduce her every moment , be playful, funny, a friend...wverything, just to find thats she deserves nothing.

sorry guys for speaking on this way...i am just with fire in my veins.

I already started to chase other women But this time they will be just meat. A real women, so soon its something that i dont want...for what i see, real women are just a mask for real *****

[El-Bortukali]

Good for you.but remember "love"/sex are a drug.something we must not fall into in order to prevent the continous come and go (encarnation)

Like The Buddha said:Desire is the source of all suffering.

[Kazbadan]

Wrong. I was searching for a real soulmate. I found this girl that i saw as being sweet. Someone i could trust. She is physically normal. I got atracted by her soul. I was searching for a real woman for life, not a *"#!$*. Now it seems thats she is just one more.

[Kazbadan]

no, but we contact from times to times. She didnt cheat me but lied a lot about her feelings (and more...this is the short story)and she is playing with me now. I am too tired.I can tell u if i wasnt like this i would be playing the right game. Where is hans solo (not the one from the movies ...the APforum guy). He always have good advice for me

oh guys, sorry for bother. Forget this, really. I was mad when i created this post.

[joker]

Theres a lot more to a relationship than sex. You younger souls seem to run after it ever chance you get, try to live with out it and see whats left of the relationship. Sex sells. Its been around since the dawn of time. Its not going to change.

So many people have trubble in this area. Theres more to life than sex and if any says theres not you are fooling your self.

Wait untill you grow up, your mind will change on the issue and I dont meen your physical age.

[Tombo]

Sorry to hear that Kaz.

I can garantee you that there are honest woman out there i know couple of them which I pretty certain can say they would not cheat/lie on you.
I think there must be quite alot of girls that are looking for a real partner a man they can trust and lean on. I have a good image of woman in general and think they are in general like that. Man certainly cheat more, it is not easy to control those hormons.........Of course there are B**** as well.

So maybe your problem is that you find your girls in the wrong places? Maybe  girls at discos and such are more interested in short adventures?

I also found it a little strange that you say:

I would try to seduce her every moment , be playful, funny, a friend...wverything, just to find thats she deserves nothing.

I think you should just be as you are and not play a role. Don't start with high expectations how your girl should be. Maybe you should not give everything too fast. Just give yourself time the get to know the girl and after a couple of months maybe you start to see if she is your dream girl or not. Don't plan in advance so to speak

Tom

[MisterJingo]

Sorry to hear that Kaz.

I can garantee you that there are honest woman out there i know couple of them which I pretty certain can say they would not cheat/lie on you.
I think there must be quite alot of girls that are looking for a real partner a man they can trust and lean on. I have a good image of woman in general and think they are in general like that. Man certainly cheat more, it is not easy to control those hormons.........Of course there are B**** as well.

So maybe your problem is that you find your girls in the wrong places? Maybe  girls at discos and such are more interested in short adventures?

I also found it a little strange that you say:

I would try to seduce her every moment , be playful, funny, a friend...wverything, just to find thats she deserves nothing.

I think you should just be as you are and not play a role. Don't start with high expectations how your girl should be. Maybe you should not give everything too fast. Just give yourself time the get to know the girl and after a couple of months maybe you start to see if she is your dream girl or not. Don't plan in advance so to speak

Tom

Tom has got some very good points. I've had more than my fair share of 'relationships ended badly', and I met all of those girls at nightclubs, raves and similar venues.
I'm not saying such girls don't want a relationship or can't be trusted, just that perhaps they might want to live a little before settling down - and this might end a relationship with hurtful feelings.

I've been with my current partner for 2 years, and known her for 5. She never goes clubbing, rarely drinks, and we have more intellectual interests than I've had with previous partners. This means I don't have to act, and I can be myself. I regularly talk to her about my astral experiencs, ideas, and discussions i'm having on forums like this .
I guess what i'm saying is, perhaps try to meet girls in other places, and get to be friends before you start a relationship - also, be youself. A person can't keep up an act forever.

[Kazbadan]

Thanks guys

She was not found on a disco.

Also i wasnt (i am not) searching for sex. Probably i was unlucky.

Now i need to rest my sould before i start anything new. I just wanted to find a nice girl, with a warm spirit. Someone to settle down. It seems that i must wait some more time.

Well, sorry for bothering you guys. And thanks again

[Tombo]

She was not found on a disco.

LoL..... Was just an idea cause you once said that you like to go to party's a lot, so i figured  that you meet girls there.

Good luck anyway Tom

[Kazbadan]

lol i was kiding on Han Solo, of course that if i want his help i will pm him....i just said that because he is a good "player" a seducer

But when it comes to a real girlfriend (not one night stand girl) things are a little different. I have no idea if he is good on that matter or not.

Tombom thanks for your insights, really, you are a kind person , and you are right, i love discos, but i know that probably any women i may find there may not be what i want.

[El-Bortukali]

Dude,you have time,chill and enjoy life,if you're bound to have a 'Worthy'gf/wife whatever it will happen.

[Kazbadan]

no it wil not happen. Now i believe that if you want something you must fight for it. About girls its something similar but of course that, as you say, we must act in a relaxed way. Maybe the best behavior its to fight for it but in a relaxed way, not waiting for results, just enjoying the process. just my 2cents