An ethical question.

[Josephine]

Okay, well, I'm pretty sure that this is going to sound immature and very silly to many people.  In fact it's very silly to me as well, because I suppose it's not even a real problem compared to many.  Actually, I know it's not.  But indulge me, people, indulge me.


Last fall, my boyfriend of five years cheated on me whilst living with me.  No qualms, worries, or cares.  Just brought a girl (who was a mutual friend) home one night while i was out of town and...well, you know.  I moved away on an internship for 16 weeks and he continued to sleep with her and myself, both of us not knowing about each other.  Anyways, the long of the short is, he ended up emotionally messing with me, telling me he loved me and then pushing me away and constantly lying to me to the point where I seeked counselling, lest I hurt myself.  The girl he was cheating with is now living with him, and they've been together since.  However, a couple months back, he begged me back, told me he didn't love this other woman and that he regrets living with her, yada yada yada. 

Obviously I said no.  I've evolved past the point where I have any desire to be with him at all, or even have anything to do with him.   However, part of me seriously wants to message his girlfriend and tell her.  And I don't know why I care so much about it.  I mean, i'm still hurt and angry about the whole situation, and a large part of me tells me to not even worry about it, and just let them be.  Then another part of me simply wants revenge for what they put me through.  Any advice on how to move past this?? Revenge is a dark road to travel, even though it would feel sooo good. 

Should I just let go and let Karma do it's work?

Or do I tell her?  She may be just stupid enough to stay with him anyway. Who knows.

[Skywalker]

Not just an ethical question, but quite a dilemma... revenge isn't the way.. but there seems to be more in it than that.

You seem to care about the other girl (?) so its not revenge... the reason to tell her would be to let her know what he thinks of her (So she could make up her own mind) and not revenge.
If it's for revenge you shouldn't - Then again i wouldn't know what to do myself.. so who am I to tell you?

Good luck 

[The Present Moment]

Revenge will make you more vulnerable to pain in the future. The bigger the ego, the larger the target.

[NoY]

Hello Josephine

Most of the people drawn into your life are done so specifically to hurt you love
Its not that they are bad or that you deserve it its simply life's way of agitating the waters to oxygenate the fish

Since this awfully thing happened to you you have most likely been devoting lots of energy to the problem without getting anything back but pain. if you dwell on it you will only encourage the situation to last longer why not let them live with there choice.

I have been through something similar myself and by wishing them both well and getting on with it you separate your self from there future consequence. betrayals of this nature are very raw and even if you forgive them life will not the consequences will own the day. maybe you should concider that in 100 years you wont care nor in 1000 years and maybe not in 10 years so if you wont care then why do you now? you don't you are just being used by the spirit to express neg energy for a time and to shore up your wall for more aggravation in the future. don't let it rule your heart or your mind just disconnect move on and find somebody you do love. even an actor or that other guy you fancy from down the street. its not being caloust its practical wisdom. he made his choice thats his loss now you make yours

Let the universe decide on the consequences not only will they get what they asked for but you will get what you deserve.

And lend your heart to something new that has not betrayed you
Good Luck

:NOY: