Saw my wife in OBE?

[Alex-Anderson]

I have had loads of OBE's in my life time so I'm quite familiar with my whole OBE workflow but last week I had a weird experience which was a first for me.
I went to bed early at around 9:30pm and my wife was downstairs in our living room watching TV. As I lay in bed I must have sensed something and sat up and I saw that my wife was standing at the foot of our bed in her black pyjamas just standing there looking at me blankly (like she was a mannequin). As I sat up I said 'sweet what are you doing, why are you standing there', but there was no response.
 
All of a sudden after completing my sentence I awoke lying in my bed and jolted upwards to see if she was there, but she wasn't? I guessed I must have dozed off as I lay in bed, and had some mini rapid OBE. Any other occasion I wouldn't have been bothered to place this much thought into the event, but the fact that I saw my wife standing there wearing black and staring at me has sort of made me think this was some sort of symbolic gesture that I needed to figure out.
The only major incident that took place was the following day we found out that she wasn't pregnant – we had just completed our first IVF cycle and my wife was waiting to do a pregnancy test that week. However aside from the distress that followed our negative result, to me that wouldn't tie up as to a reason I saw her. I have never had any family members appear in what I assume was an OBE while they on the other hand were still awake. 
 
Afterwards I did run downstairs to ask if she had come up stairs and she said no, but had been just watching TV. Oddly despite all my OBE's I don't really read them as having any spiritual or symbolic link/bridge to my conscious life and usually see them as separate events to my day to day activities. But I guess because I saw my wife, her presence acted as a bridge between the two which has made me feel a little on edge.

[Jilt]

While exiting I often see my husband in bed when he's not or vice versa. And years ago my ex-husband would be strangling me when I exited (there's some heavy symbolism for you - we divorced not long after).

I've come to the conclusion after years of doing this that what I see after exiting is all internally generated. In fact, I no longer see the room at all since my consciousness doesn't 'need' this phase to believe I've projected. I prefer this because I would often see ominous figures when exiting and now skipping this phase gets me to the good stuff (I zoom down a tunnel to my destination) more quickly. So my advice is don't worry about what you see when exiting and enjoy your travels.

[Alex-Anderson]

I suppose for me I have developed a certain pattern to my OBEs and I have usually met people/entities including occasions my wife (often if I have exited during my sleep and I would sometimes find her in a child like state playing on the bed - odd I know). However on this occasion that I'm recalling in my post my OBE occured in a different format

- It happened almost with no transition from waking to OBE state, completely timeless and smooth
- Also because of the unusual very rapid non transitional state from conscious to non conscious it was odd that I should see my wife standing at the foot of the bed, in fact it was her presence that set the tone or marker or acting as a signature to realise that I was in an OBE where if not I would have probably not questioned what was going on
- However one can't always help in viewing these things as something deep or boding.

[Jilt]

Ah, that makes it very interesting that you didn't have the normal OOBE sensations of going to sleep or waking up after you saw your wife. I wonder if the dimensions are getting more slippery. I see holographic ghosts/beings/animal totems sometimes when I wake up that last for about 2-5 seconds and I am FULLY awake. They don't freak me out since it's been happening for years now but I think it has something to do with the fact that I've been astral projecting a long time and I'm not always firmly in this dimension.

[Alex-Anderson]

Ah, that makes it very interesting that you didn't have the normal OOBE sensations of going to sleep or waking up after you saw your wife. I wonder if the dimensions are getting more slippery. I see holographic ghosts/beings/animal totems sometimes when I wake up that last for about 2-5 seconds and I am FULLY awake.

Is that for real? In all the books I have read on the subject I have never come across that account? Perhaps the brains memory or perception is getting cross wired, but surely dimensional slipperiness could do more harm than good.

[light487]

Last night when I realised I was dreaming (ie. became lucid) it was my fiancee's face that I saw. It was like the scene shifted from the general dream and then suddenly she was standing in front of me and all I could see was her face. That's the point I realised I was dreaming.

Also, when I had finished my adventures and became aware of my physical body again, I noticed that we were holding each other's hand..

[Alex-Anderson]

My wife doesnt seem to have the ability or perhaps interest in OBEs as I do. However I have often met her in our bedroom during some OBEs. For some reason she sort of acts a but uncontrolled and unresponsive almost as if I'm not there.

One time she was jumping up and down on our bed and I remember standing there and watching her, however she was unresponsive and just kept jumping up and down like a little kid. The next day I asked her if she remembered having a dream where she was jumping up and down, but she didn't.

It would be cool to see if you could validate an experience perhaps there are some couples on here that have done that.

[Boom]

I've seen my girlfriend twice in OBEs.
First I had become awake, perhaps a false awakening and she was in bed with me. It confused me as she was physically an hour away. But she was right there! When I came to, she obviously wasnt.
Another time I OBEd and went to her house, and she was sleeping in her bed.

On both occasions she has no memory of anything being out of the ordinary in her life.

Many many years ago when I was a kid, I had a sleep paralysis during the day, and I was sure my mother was there in the room. But she was out at the supermarket.

I think we somehow end up manifesting the people closest to us sometimes. I dont know why.