Call to order (please)

Lasher · July 02, 2003, 20:55:12

Hey Nay,

Say, I just wanted to let you know that I tried to respond to the e-mail you sent but it just kept bouncing back.
Didn't want you to think I was blowing you off. [8D]

Lasher

kromeknight · July 02, 2003, 22:49:08

Hello Lasher
Sooo you get Emails from Nay [

] I put up a colour photo and everything and YOU get emails [

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I'm not jealous "sniff..sniff"... really [

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PeacefulWarrior · July 03, 2003, 01:06:35

Man...this just goes to show how out of the loop I am. I have to agree with Frank's original post and I echo his words when I say that I am by no means a prude but have been very disheartened by some of the foul language and utterly immature behavior by some members of the forum.

For the most part, however, the site is running as smooth as ever and I know I have a lot of friends and people willing to listen and lend advice here (or just chat).

Dan

Lasher · July 03, 2003, 05:19:31

quote:
Originally posted by kromeknight

Hello Lasher
Sooo you get Emails from Nay [] I put up a colour photo and everything and YOU get emails []lol
I'm not jealous "sniff..sniff"... really []

What can I say?
When you got it, you got it. [

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Lol. [

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Ohh, don't be too jealous.
She was just curious as to when I was going to weigh in on all of the excitement of the other day.

The answer is, probably never. Everyone else did a fine job. Besides, everytime I thought of something to say I realized that I would just be throwing more fuel onto a fire that needed to be put out.

Lasher

kromeknight · July 03, 2003, 06:38:52

Hello Lasher
yes it's a tricky situation, the more ppl try and work it out, help or even give there opinion the more frustrated and angry ppl get.
I had to laugh the other day as one of my old post came back to haunt me, you know what I mean it's good that ppl still reply because to them it's new, fresh but for me I've learnt from it and moved on. But for Neg Removal5 all this might keep coming back to bite him on the bum for years and nobody wants that do WE.
I'm not saying in regards to my old post that ppl shouldn't post there opinions, go for it! because new things can be learnt but if I said something 5 months ago my opinion might have changed contrary to my original post, anyway I've said enough I wish all the best for Neg Removal5 and everyone else [

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I'll try not to post anymore about this my opinions are kind of boring even for me...!!? did anyone swear at me [

!] no..no I don't want to know [

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Take care Lasher and Everyone else
Ps I bet I'll be poking ppl in the astral with Nay before you[

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Nay · July 03, 2003, 08:43:45

Tehehehehehe! so many men, sooooo little time! What's a girl to do?

Thanks Lasher..I didn't think you were blowing me off..lol..it just everyone was saying something and was waiting for you to chime in..in hind sight, it was for the best..no need to beat a dead horse..ugh! "when you got it, you got it"..lol..yeah, musicians hold a special place in my heart..my hubby is a drummer..mmmmmm something quite sexy about that!..

Krome...I am thinking after posting that Pic..you are gonna get PLENTY of PM's..lol..I don't want you to think I am a stalker!
about you poking ppl with me...lol..I had to read that line twice [

)] I tend to read wayyyy too fast... so all I saw was poke and Nay...HEHEHEHEHE...draggin the mind out of the gutter now..lol..Tis very difficult!

Timeless! Thanks again for coming to the chatroom..I really enjoyed our conversation.. you are one in a million!

Nay. [

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Squeek · July 03, 2003, 10:21:02

Hey guys...I'm gonna be gone for a while...

We're taking another family trip for the weekend, but we get back Sunday. I might be able to get the internet on sunday night if I'm lucky. If not, I may just get it monday after work. You will begin to see less posts by me, sadly.

I posted here because it's a hot topic right now, so you're all bound to see it

~Squeek

PS _-_ My birthday is in a week! [8D] Give me gifts. []

Nay · July 03, 2003, 10:45:18

Have a great weekend Squeek!

As for the b-day gift..how bout a new shiny pot for your head?..lol

Nay. [:O]

Tisha · July 03, 2003, 11:09:04

it's time to let this string sink out of sight.

neg removal5 · July 03, 2003, 12:43:07

Hi everyone, I read everybodys posts and replies, nothing bad enough to report to a moderator.

Timeless

You are right about a lot of things in your post, but there is one area that might be off a little bit. You said if a person fixes a flaw they won't bother you anymore. I'm sorry that is not correct, even if you fix the flaw some of those people will keep trying to bother you no matter what. I believe we have a couple of example up above. I'm sure everyone can find the examples.

Kromeknight

No reason to worry about me buddie. I have real tough skin. Nothing haunts me or comes back to bite me for a time, if it does I just consider it a mosquito bite and swat it. I could understand if people weren't use to certain people who like to stir things up, those people might continue to be bothered by those people, but I'm not.

I had to fight my way off the street a good time back. I've had people try to rob me a couple of times. One time a guy pulled out a switchblade and tried to stick me in the stomach. A police car came around the corner about 5 seconds later, and you know where that guy went.

I've also been robbed at gunpoint to the head. It's not a very good feeling looking straight into a gun pointed at your head. Since I wouldn't lie down on my stomach for them to shoot me, they decided to hit me in the face about 10 times. I guess when they saw that I was a pretty tough guy, they decided to let me live. Later when I talked to the police officer he was suprised that I wasn't all shook up. I looked at him and said, "I hope I see those guys again, I'm going to offer to buy them another gun, because they can't hit worth a crap."

I've also had the opportunity to share in a number of fist fights during my sojourn on the street. I started working for the van lines, and then eventuatlly got me a small moving business going.

Silva

You haven't said nothing bad enough to report to a moderator.
But in reply to your post, you better believe it, especially if you were going around and messing with and harming other people when I encountered you. As long as you weren't doing anything like that you would be free to do as you chose.

I do get mental when I see injustice, as do a lot of good people including spirit guides, Angels, and God himself. I get "mental" but the guy doing the harm to others is going to be the one having the "problems".

To all

I guess I have developed a "self-defense" mechanism whenever I encountered "belligerent", trouble making type people, who cause problems for other. I guess my "self defense" mechanism is pretty strong, as I wish they would go to "hell" or "prison" or somewhere. I guess some people are better at dealing with belligerent people than I am. I for one agree that I have to work on the way I respond to such people, and I plan to do so.

Sometimes people are not themselves and react on the spur of the moment. In those situations maybe they just aren't really thinking, and they are not per say belligerant like that or troublemaking like that all the time. It happens, they resolve the conflict, and then they move on. But when you see the same people continue to do things and say things like that all the time, and they just continue and continue to act that way and try to take shots at others. Then you have most likely run into a person who enjoys stirring up strife, being belligerent, and continuing to cause problems.

Nay went off. I then went off. She then refrained and apologized to forum members for her part and quit. I then apologized to the forum members for my part and quit. But there are other parties that were involved in the conflict who have chosen not to do what is right to resolve things and bring them back to normal. These others are wanting to continue to take the shots, and continue to stir it up, as seen from the posts above by certain people.

Everyone else can sort everything else out. I've got some interesting subjects and topics that I have to go check on which are posted on the forums. Hope to hear some interesting information on those subjects from some of you.

Good day all

timeless · July 03, 2003, 13:18:15

Dear Negremoval5,

Sorry I was not clear in my explanation. I meant that even if they dog you it will not bother you. Even if they try to push every button you ever had it will not bother you. Because by then you have found all your buttons and understand why they set you off. You will understand why silly things people do bother you so much. You will realize just how silly some comments really are.

Try to ignore (not swat) people who are acting silly until you can disable as many of your buttons as possible. We can all be silly at one time or another -- making flippant comments or giving little jabs. These jabs and comments are usually defense mechanisms born out of old wounds. You say something that seems harmless and then they associate what you have said with some horrible jackass they knew. You are not a jackass but with just one or two key trigger words they can suddenly imagine you are just like so and so who did this and this to me or my friend. Brandishing an even bigger weapon will only make them remember a bigger wound and then bigger defense mechanisms will be pulled out. When we start understanding these defenses inside ourselves we can start feeling more compassion for others as we watch their defense mechanisms in play...even as they are yelling at us.

People have strong reactions to different things. Imagine someone who had a stern unloving strict minister as a father. They might have a wild reaction to someone claiming to know God. We do not know each others buttons only guess at them. We can all accidentally step on a each others buttons and set off chain reactions. Just try to be aware each person here is bringing in their own personal garbage. Handling this requires patience and a cool head.

The great thing about this forum is you can work on ignoring silliness. No one here can hold you at gunpoint fortunately. There are no corners except a nice Writer's Corner -- so no reason to feel trapped.

I am so glad to here you want to work on developing new strategies to deal with others[

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Best Wishes,
timeless[

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neg removal5 · July 03, 2003, 13:35:48

Timeless I see your point

Some of those people may choose not to do the right thing, and continue to try to bother someone, but even in that case the person should just ignore it and go on.

I also agree with you someone or some people stepped on my buttons when I was just on here minding my own business and trying to find information, and in self-defense I stepped back on their buttons, hence a chain reaction.

I think from this thread everyone can see that we all have areas to work on. I for one plan to work on the areas that I need to work on, no matter what others may choose to do. And in quoting you timeless, even if certain others do not choose to work on the areas they need to work on, we should not let it bother us, and just go on.

See all of you on the interesting topics out there. I think we have reached the answers on this thread that we were looking to find.

Tisha · July 03, 2003, 13:37:49

OK it's obvious to me that all of my inane posts to the Chat section of this Forum are not going to send this string to the bottom of the heap. RATS. All that work typing for nothing! Anyway, my little pinch of wisdom for the day:

Many moons ago, a high priest from a Scottish tradition told me, "All magic is done with mirrors." It was a quote from someone else, I don't know whom. An old Craft saying by now.

"All Magic is done with mirrors." If you meditate on this phrase long enough you will realize, it's REAL deep. Everyone, write it on a piece of paper and stick it on a wall somewhere so you don't forget!

Most of the beings we interact with are actually holding mirrors up to us, so that we can see ourselves. Sometimes we don't like what we see, and we strike at the mirror! (Actually Timeless, we might have had this discussion before, because I'm getting flashbacks).

Anyway, one must work with the "mirrors" that are presented to us if we're to be successful at changing reality according to our wills, or changing our consciousness in accordance with our wills. Sometimes looking into the mirror can be painful. But we can't skip it - - - because ALL MAGIC IS DONE WITH MIRRORS - - - there is no other way to tranform your life. So take a peek!

timeless · July 03, 2003, 13:40:31

Dear Negremoval5,

I look forward to learning from you. You have made my day.[

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Respectfully,
timeless

Frank · July 03, 2003, 14:47:17

quote:
Originally posted by neg removal5

Some of those people may choose not to do the right thing, and continue to try to bother someone, but even in that case the person should just ignore it and go on.

Mike, IMO it's not a question of someone simply ignoring it. After all, who wants to feel like they are just some kind of doormat. Again, no-one here is against you expressing an opinion.

Like I say, you can talk all day about the hurt you feel for posts on end... Provided you do so (please) without resort to profane language.

Yours,
Frank

ronaldo · July 04, 2003, 15:14:30

neg,

I 'm entilted to my opinion an i think u r full of crap, i think u have real a real problem with some people on this forum and i think u talk out your big hairy sweaty bum[

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Lasher · July 04, 2003, 15:31:29

quote:
Originally posted by ronaldo
and i think u talk out your big hairy sweaty bum[]

Ronaldo? How do you know what Neg's bum looks like???
Wait a minute.
On second thought...
no, don't tell me. [}:)]

Lasher

ronaldo · July 04, 2003, 15:45:47

lol

He sounds like the hairy sweaty bum type

Adrian · July 04, 2003, 16:29:08

Greetings neg removal5,

quote:
Originally posted by neg removal5

Timeless I see your point

Some of those people may choose not to do the right thing, and continue to try to bother someone, but even in that case the person should just ignore it and go on.

I also agree with you someone or some people stepped on my buttons when I was just on here minding my own business and trying to find information, and in self-defense I stepped back on their buttons, hence a chain reaction.

I think from this thread everyone can see that we all have areas to work on. I for one plan to work on the areas that I need to work on, no matter what others may choose to do. And in quoting you timeless, even if certain others do not choose to work on the areas they need to work on, we should not let it bother us, and just go on.

See all of you on the interesting topics out there. I think we have reached the answers on this thread that we were looking to find.

Before you judge others you should look within - one of the most important aspects for progress is to "know yourself".

Now please let this whole saga terminate right here and now.

Under no circumstances will I ever allow these forums to be compromised by the sort of behaviour we have all witnessed over the last week or so, which is totally and completely unacceptable, and anyone using profane language or being abusive or disrespectful towards any other member will find their account summarily locked.

This topic and matter is closed, and the topic is locked.

With best regards,

Adrian.

Frank · July 01, 2003, 14:33:56

Dear all,

I've been a member of this BBS for a while. There have been certain events taking place of late that are getting out of hand. For the first time ever I am reading language which I would never expect to read. And I am no prude, believe me. But logging-on here, on a virtual daily basis, for over a year, has led me to expect a high standard of general posting and respectful debate.

This is a moderated forum. As such, could I respectfully suggest that anyone who has a "problem" with another member to use the PM system or speak to a moderator. Otherwise, all I can see happening is one of the moderators will step in and start barring people. In which case, I feel all of us will take a step backward.

Yours,
Frank

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Call to order (please)

Nay

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