you can't just dismiss something because it only happens in your mind. if, as you say, that reality is possibly composed of consciousness, then we are all basically in our minds. i get what you're saying and doing, but just telling someone who's having an overwhelming experience that something isn't real because you said so probably won't help them get around it. at the same time, indulging in the fantasy could exacerbate the problem. but, maybe that "phantom" is a representation of a mental block, a psychological program in the mind that needs to be confronted. the point is that humans are very very symbolic and metaphorical creatures. we personify things so that we can grasp and interact with them. maybe it is necessary in the healing of a shattered ego to accept these experiences and work through them instead of denying them.
this is what my blog post about the shadow self was about. denying these representations buries them deeper. confronting them and acknowledging them heals and re-integrates them.
this is what my blog post about the shadow self was about. denying these representations buries them deeper. confronting them and acknowledging them heals and re-integrates them.