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Oh Hans, I am ... EXTREMELY boring! I am not 'in to sex'

That is boring!  Oh, come on...that's no way to talk about yourself.  Does somebody need a hug? (btw, did you like my newspaper style quote)

Ha ha ha.... good question. I'm not really attracted to the 'typical' female hearthrobs though

Ummm.......lets see:

Sean Connery (You mean James Bond)
Mel Gibson (Braveheart)
Denzel Washington (extreme heart throb)

WOW!  you make a great case!  Good thing you aren't representing Micheal Jackson!


* Oh come on..leave luscious lips, Angelina Jolie, off your silly little list.

With Love
Hans Solo

it is all in an ebook by a guy named David Shade.  You can get it here:

http://www.masterful-lover.com/manual.html

I have read many books, and seen videos on sex, and this is the best.

Although, he gets kinda crazy in certain parts with his hypnosis.  For instance, his girlfriend wanted him to hypnotize her so he can make her orgasm on command.  I have never done this, however he knows of a special spot called the Deep Spot.

If you want to learn about the G spot do a search on Amazon.com

Hans Solo

Then again, perhaps we can move beyond these instinctual drives and begin to present our sexual energies in a more asexual way.

I don't know about you, but I hope our species never become asexual.  i think of the act of making love is a spiritual endeavor.  Also,  What is with all this notch in the belt stuff.  What I am talking about is the ability to attract the opposite sex, and for men to stop taking whatever falls in their lap and CHOOSE to attract the women they desire/want to connect with. Women have been taught this stuff in Cosmo, talking with their friends,etc.  Mens shy away and assume they know how to attract the opposite sex.  Well, there are a lot of men out their that if they could put their ego aside, and learn from the successful, would fair a lot better with the "fairer" sex.

We have men becoming more feminine, and women becoming more masculine. When a woman is approached by a man who is strongly masculine, which I perceive as being drastically different than the norm, there is a instinctual sexual attraction that allows men like Han to put another 'notch in the belt'

Very true, but men are not men anymore because of society (most Tv, Movies, etc).  The masculine energy in the yin to the woman's yang.  On an instinctual level it is very attractive.  

I know there is much more passion (on both sides) when I TAKE my woman and RAVISH her, rather then seduce my wife and tenderly ensure her needs are met. Is this better, or worse? Who is to say - it's astounding that we can all experience such amazing depths and breadths of pleasure together

 Of course this is good.  It is only the women's movement that says all sex with a man is Rape.  That is crap.  As long as both of you receive tremendous amounts of joy from sharing such an intimate act, then all is well. The ravishing you are talking about is just the ability to let go and experience each other on a primal level with out ego and societal influences getting in the way.

If you want a very good description of this read David Daeda "The way of the Superior Man"  it is kind of a spiritual interpretation of what is magnetic in a man.

Hans Solo

You have to remember if you read all my post that I transition into a rapport stage (sounds structured but it is not-I just don't start off by TRYING for rapport-I assume it).  Then a lot of the cockiness fades away and I proceed to have Real conversation/connection.  I would get sick of myself If I was cocky every minute of the Day.

Hans Solo

BTW novice, are you adventurous?  Because if not I probably  wouldn't be that interested anyway!

Sex, as most masters will tell you, is an inferior act, committed by inferior people, ignorant, foolish and unwise people. Love is superior act, committed by superior people(masters, angels, selfless people) One is unreal and ego related. Another is real and soul related. No one can convince me that there no distinction between man and god. The distinction is infinite. Just like the distinction between an atom and the universe is infinite. A man who thinks otherwise, is foolish, and reality will eventually catch up and show him that.

 I agree. I love all women, but especially beautiful ones.
Also, I love making love to lovely women.  See data that is 3 loves in a row, that should be enough!  J/K my man.

Now, I will agree with you and Frank about attitude, if by that you mean what I would term 'charisma'. There have been a few guys I have known in high school and college who had this. They weren't very attractive at all physically. One was short and stocky, another short and lean and a third one who was tall with an average build. None were built very well as far as muscles go. But they all would have girls stop them on campus and ask to kiss them. I always just laughed at this because I found it hilarious. They weren't cocky, as much as they were confident. But by confident I mean they simply liked who they were. They were content and happy with themselves and it showed to everyone around them.

 Bingo.  Although a little cockiness doesn't hurt as long as you are not arrogant.  You have to be comfortable in you own skin.  Also, be willing to get outside of your comfort zone and take a risk (approaching).  The more you do it the less scary it will be, and the more confident you will become.  Confidence comes from competence, and competence comes from confidence. (beware circular reference)

And for the record, I don't find Han repulsive, simply amusing. I have no negative emotions towards him whatsoever

 I have heard this a million times from girls.  Usually 30 minutes before i get their phone # or take them home.     Women hate to love me at first.

I think you have good tips, too, Hans Solo. But be careful to not become too metro-sexual ... I guess that relates to becoming wussy, though

 Right on.  If you are more feminine by nature dress a bit more macho (wear a wallet chain for example).  However, Tom Cruise doesn't have a metro sexual vibe in ToP Gun, and even though I dress nice my attitude is completely masculine.  

I'm surprised I haven't seen a lot about other womanly traits that can be very sexy, such as high intelligence, charisma, and so forth. There's only so much you can tolerate a lovely body and a lousy mind. There's got to be a balance there for anything long-term

 Great point!  If a women is an 8 in pure looks for example but has:

-Great witty sense of humor/style
-Smart as hell (I have a huge soft spot for intelligent women-probably because I am also smart)
-Adventurous (take it any way you want)
-loves to travel
-self confident

Then she will be a 10 in my book.

Thanks for the kind words:

This post was long but it got lost

Ok briefly

1. Most guys are clueless in the gym.  they have about as much luck as an atheist astral projecting.  All they need is guidance, and a great book for this is Body for Life by Bill Phillips.  I got down to 5% body fat in college do this program and am getting on it again.  BTW, get myoplex at www.Vitaglo.com (will save 50% over GNC).

2.  Most guys suck at fashion and dressing themselves.  I personally dress like Constantine on American Idol.  I used to have no fashion sense until I started looking at fashion in magazines and movies and ask myself why certain things worked.  I have incredible fashion now.  GUYS:  GET GOOD SHOES.  A women will over look alot if you have nice shoes, clean fingernails/breath, and smell good (Marc Jacobs/ Dolce & Gabbana for men cologne).  I can hear the scream of "materialism" now.  Hold on, I got 2 pair of BCBG shoes, never worn, for $45 dollars (total) on Ebay.  Considering these are $179 a piece I got quite a deal.  I always get good deals.  Try and cut down on the number of blue shirts in your closet.

3.  Keep the sexual tension alive in a relationship.  NEVER let it go slack and become an Uber wussy once you are in a relationship.  Do the things that worked to get her.

4.  Get knowledgeable on sex.  This is a very touchy area that most men don't like exploring/ pursuing more knowledge on.  Put you egos aside and learn- you shall be rewarded.  If you don't know where the G spot is you are an amateur.  If you think the G spot is the best,you are an amateur.  Read David Shades Sex Manual--nothing like it in print.  You will learn about the DEEP SPOT-orgasm machine.  You see, most women have had Clitoral orgasms there entire life.  This is where they are very sensitive after they go and don't like to be touched.  Deep spot orgasms will be a whole body sensation and they can go and go and go (very powerful).  These are Extremely powerful and sometimes they will ejaculate  (looks like they are peeing).  Anyway, just read this book.  He gets into some hardcore stuff but just take whatever you are comfortable with.

5.  Learn the art of storytelling.  Weave fascinating tales in everyday conversation.  Tell the most mundane things in an interesting way.  For instruction on this watch the movie Don Juan Demarco (GREAT FLICK).  See how the way he talks about his reality becomes almost a drug to those around him.

Homework assignment:  Watch the ladies men in these movies and see what they all posses:  See how their realities are magnetic to those around them.
1. Top Gun (I know you have seen it---SEE IT AGAIN!)
2. Don Juan Demarco
3. Fight Club (Tyler Durdens character)
4. Die Another Day (bond)
5. Legends of the Fall (triston)
6. hans solo in star wars movies
7.The Tao of Steve
8. Thomas Crown Affair

Kiss tip:  Run you hand up the nap of her neck very softly until you come the base of her skull.  Close your hand into a fist (with hair inside silly) and gently pull.  This is an evolutionary trick and gets them very hot
continue to kiss passionately.  Dont just kiss normal either.  Sometimes I will tell them to stick out their tongue (in bed) and I will caress it with my tongue, then over her lips, etc.  Dont be normal or average be extra ordinary

Hans solo

I dont do things that women say they want.  I do things that women respond to.  Also, I only go after girls that have extremely high self esteems and are absolutely beautiful.  My personality, when I go out,  is extremely close to Tom Cruise in Top Gun (not quite so arrogant) .  You have to understand this is all done tongue in cheek.  FOr instance, you will joke around with your friends like this and it is ok because you know this is a form of rapport.  When you do these you HAVE to do it in a funny way.  I dont do negs on women I would rate as an 8, it is reserved for 9s and 10s.  Also, the neg does not feel like a slap in the face.  It is just teasing.  I treat them like a bratty little sister "I love em, but they annoy me."


ALSO: caution men.  Women will always say this type of stuff (see above).  This is because when you ask them what they want in a man they immediately think of a heart throb like Brad Pitt and say "how would I want Brad to treat me".  Well, I would want him to be nice, and sensitive, etc.  All the stuff I say is extremely scientific and well documented behavior of Alpha Male Men/animals and press evolutionary buttons in women.  Read ANY romance novel (women porn) and you will see that the man is a rebel that the women wants to tame.  It is never some lame kiss A** that worships the ground they walk on in the beginning.  Dont get me wrong I am a hopeless romantic, but know how to play the game.

women hate to love me

Hans (jedi master)

Personally, in my humble opinion, you should always be yourself, not someone else. You're just cheating yourself. At the end of the day your self is much more than a body.

Talk to any of your female friends about pickup, and odds are
they'll answer with some variant of this.

"Just be yourself, and everything will be fine."

At this point you're most likely sitting there thinking to
yourself, "Nonsense.  I've been myself my entire life,
and it's not really getting me the type of women I'd like! If
anything, I need to become DIFFERENT than how I am now!"
first, if being yourself is being somebody who can not attract the opposite sex, then you have to change albeit a little.  Funny thing is once you apply these belief and rules they WILL Be a part of you.  The "Be Yourself" argument is a weak one.  What we mean is: (copied from www.realsocialdynamics.com newsletter)

If someone tells you to be yourself, they don't mean to keep
on engaging in the same old behaviors that haven't got you women
in the past and just shrug your shoulders when it doesn't work
out.  What they really mean is to drop all of the filters of
insecurity in your head and start expressing yourself
congruently.

In other words, don't *just* be yourself, be a hyper version of
yourself.  People who are operating on a very pure level
internally are magnetic. It's not about making yourself over
into a new person, it's about letting go of that which STIFLES
the attractive person that already lies within you. (btw: being a wussy, ALWAYS sensitive "are you ok, what can i do for you-want me to beg" type crap will stifle attraction and ruin relationships)

What I mean by this is that, over the years, we tend to
accumulate a set of beliefs with regard to social interactions,
especially interactions with the opposite sex, that sound
good on paper.

But when push comes to shove, a lot of these beliefs turn out
to be empty platitudes that can end up working AGAINST YOU.

As you grow and become more socially intelligent, you learn
to recognize these old cliches for what they are. You may
even come to a point where you start to actively work to
eradicate the behaviors associated with them.

Like, the guy will think to himself, "All that stuff is weak...
that's just BS that society puts out to throw people off the
track... I'm a REAL player, I won't fall for that."

The funny thing, however, is this: behind all these apparently
butt-backwards cliches we've all heard since high school
about the best way to go about picking up women, there exists
an element of truth.

These are the hidden nuggets of wisdom that only a true mack
with a real-world understanding of the mechanics of the game
can pick up on. No pun intended.

What am I talking about here? Let me give you a couple of
examples.

First off, there's that old admonition you used to hear
constantly from your teachers and parents when you were a kid:

"You should think before you speak."

This is one of my favorites. My dad used to say this one to me
all the friggin' time.

"Boy, you need to learn to THINK before you speak!!"

Ok, makes sense. Of course.

The problem is this: a lot of guys get waaay too wrapped up
in this. Especially when they're interacting with women.

For example, you have a guy talking to a girl at the bar.
And he's sitting there talking to her, but in his head, he's
always trying to stay two steps ahead, to ensure he doesn't
say the wrong thing and blow it.

It's like he's Garry Kasparov or something, trying to defeat
IBM's Deep Blue supercomputer in the chess match of the
century. Contemplating every possible move and permutation
in advance, so he'll be ready for it.

Got to be READY!!

BZZZZZZT!!! Wrong.

It's ironic, because when you're constantly trying to stay
ahead in the interaction, you actually end up sabotaging
yourself.

What happens is this: by not focusing on being in the moment,
you end up killing the vibe.

In pickup, rhythm is so important as to be paramount to
success. Rhythm, expression and confidence are all
intertwined. If your mind is always thirty seconds in the
future, you're going to sub communicate bad things about
yourself. Why would someone secure in their abilities be worried
about "screwing up"?

Think of it like this: it's the difference between a novice
guitar player struggling to remember which notes to play next,
and Jimi Hendrix just riffing and flowing straight from the
soul. If you've ever listened to a live Hendrix album, you know
what I'm talking about. (If you haven't, I suggest you download
some immediately and listen to it while you read the rest of
this newsletter). One sounds stilted and awkward, the other
sounds honest and soulful... you can't help but be drawn in.

By walking on eggshells and being concerned about what others
will think of what you say, you're creating a gap between
your true self and the persona others see.

This gap exists within everybody. In people who are highly
charismatic, the gap will be so small as to be insignificant.
There is literally no difference between what they feel inside
and what they project to the world.

This is universally attractive to all people.

So, back to the original point: guys get into the game and
they learn that this advice is, let's say, "not so good". As
a result, they dismiss it outright as "chump conditioning".

But, as I've come to realize, there's some hidden treasure in
this dung heap.

As I've gotten more and more experience up in the game, I've
started to develop a field intuition about certain scenarios.
This intuition is basically my brain instantaneously comparing
the situation at hand against all the information gleaned from years of going out to meet women.
When you get that many interactions under your belt, you gots
quite the preponderance of data to draw from.

So, for example, I'll be talking to a girl or a group of
girls, and they will say "X". What happens is that my brain
searches the database for similar experiences and brings back
suggestions.

Note that this happens INSTANTANEOUSLY. Your brain is an
extremely powerful heuristic computing machine, more powerful
than you know. Every sliver of information you've ever
taken in is stored in it, somewhere.

So when this happens, it's not something I'm consciously
doing. It just happens.

The way it practically manifests is the interesting part.

Rather than throwing up suggestions of what to say, my brain
spits out WARNINGS of things to NOT say or do. Like, my brain
searches the database and comes back in a nanosecond with a
warning: "DON'T DO THAT... LET IT GO... IF YOU DO THAT IT'S
GAME OVER!!"

Let me give you a quick couple of examples.

Let's say I'm interacting with a group and someone in the
group says something that sets them up for a joke at their
expense. I have the perfect response for it, a response that
I KNOW will get people around us falling down on the floor,
clutching their sides in agony because they're laughing so
hard. I get ready to spit the line out...

...when all of a sudden something stops me. It's my brain,
telling me that, yes, the joke might be the funniest thing
I've said all month, but it will tinkle off the wrong person
in the group, and I'll end up blown out of the set. So I
bite my tongue and move on. Sure, I didn't get the laugh, but
I'll get the lay instead. Oh well.

The funny thing is, when I first got into the game, this
warning wouldn't have come up. I would have just blithely
spit out the line and been left there scratching my head in
puzzlement after I got blown out.

Here's another real life example. I'm getting ready for a
date with a 19 year old I met last week. I know that this is
ON, so I spend a couple hours getting my house ready for
when I pull her back to it. This means mopping the floor,
dusting, cleaning the bathroom, etc.

So I call the chick up, and all of a sudden she tells me she's
flaking on me to go to a ballgame. What the hell? I'm
pretty irritated, especially since I did all that housework.

So I start to say to her, "But, I even cleaned the bathroom
for you!"

BZZZT!!! My spidey sense starts tingling like a mofo! "DO NOT
SAY THAT! DO NOT SAY THAT!"

So instead, I say in a sarcastic tone, "Awww, I'm so
disappointed. I hired a limo, had flowers flown in from
Brazil, and even got a concert pianist from France to make the
night special." She starts laughing and agrees to meet
up after the game. I she came over that night... SOLID GAME!

Now, what happened there was, my brain searched the database
and came up with this: telling her that I cleaned my bathroom
would raise her "anti-slut-defense". Why would I clean my
bathroom? What am I expecting, her to come back to my house
and sleep with me? Oh my god, how shocking!

Based on past experience, I knew this was the incorrect course
of action, so I changed my tack and succeeded.

So basically, what I'm saying here is that when you hear
someone say, "You should think before you speak," the true
meaning isn't that you should walk on eggshells and carefully
weigh every word that comes out of your mouth.

Think of it like this instead: it's more a matter of installing
BEHAVIORAL FILTERS in your head that guide you down a funnel
of choices that lead you to your goals in a given interaction. As
you accumulate more and more experience, the filters become more
comprehensive.

Back again to help you poor souls -  I am qualified in this area

Data-  you have a misunderstanding of women, and have taken the mindset of a touchy feely wussy (David Deangelos words).  ATTRACTION FOR A WOMEN IS NOT A CHOICE!!!  You have to be THE man.  You will instantly do better with women if you download the ebook here www.doubleyourdating.com .  

Frank-  you were right on in your last post.  Funny, when I saw your post below mine I was scared to read it because I love your post and felt you were going to debunk my post, but people would take it as Gospel because of your legendary status here.  Wrong again!

I love the way you talk about the coy smile.  Man i have this down to a science.  I call it my Bruce Willis smile.  It is sort of that half smile I use while "charmingly looking into her eyes" with a hint of sexual overtones.  A good example is Pierce Brosnan in the Thomas Crown Affair.  I also agree that most men get nervous around beautiful women and smile like a buffoon.  

"The bubble" -- once you achieve this state it is all over.  I call it the Deer in the headlights look.  Where she is totally absorbed in your stories, conversation, etc.

Most of my conversation with a women doesn't even matter, although I do have funny stories I use and the such.  Mostly it is the Way I say it.  I say it in a light hearted way but While i am saying it am always implying that she wants me (and I really feel this way).  If you would look at it from an outsiders position it may not even sound like a pick up, but there is drama going on that only we know about (David Deangelo calls it sexual communication -that CD set is great BTW).  Another great example of this is in the Thomas Crown Affair.  Almost everything Pierce says is in this tone-ie another shot of espresso.  

VERY IMPORTANT:  most guys walk on egg shells around women they like and are always thinking about if they should say this or will it offend her, etc.  This is very bad.  I always push the envelope, but it works because I will say anything and show them the depths of my soul-honesty works people (as long as you are not be a supplicate wussy).  Also, a women of quality will S***T test you.  For instance:

Her:  Man, your cocky/ That's an interesting shirt/ are you always this bold?
Hans Solo:  Glad you like it!  (always imply that she wants you)

I also do funny stuff like grab her hand and hold it, then accuse her of trying to hold my hand (implying that she was the one who initiated this act) and say "wow, sorry i don't hold hands with strange women i just met--man your forward!" -then give her the coy smile.  Or, if she disagrees with me I will thumb war her!  I am 25 yrs old and this still works like a charm.  It gets her to view you as fun.  

Kiss test her.  brush back her hair.  If she doesn't flinch, then look into her eyes then to her lips and back again.  She will know what this means, and if she doesn't pull away-go for it!  Always escalate or you will miss your opportunity.  

BTW, there are a lot of professed gurus out there.  Ross Jefferies is one that I don't take stock in.  Frank mentioned him, and I would not recommend him.  

This stuff is like the icing on the cake.  First you need to get confident.  To do this you may need to get in the gym, etc.

Bar pickup theory:  In bars women of quality are usually in groups.  So what I do is the Mystery Method.  This means that I will open the group (not opening my target) with an opinion opener.  Then I will engage the group in funny stories,etc.  While I am doing this I am ignoring my target (hot babe 9.0+).  She is not used to being ignored an will try and get my attention (if only to validate herself).  Once she does I will give her a negative compliment (backhanded compliment)  like "I like your dress, EVERYBODY seems to be wearing those now"  or "I love your shoes, i bet they looked REALLY cool when they were new"
    Now, her group really loves me because they don't think I am there to pick up their friend anymore.  I may give another NEG like if she touches my arm say " that will be forty dollars"  or act like she spit on you and while wiping away the invisible spit say "yew, you just spit on me. yuck"  but then kind of half smile at her.  However, I then say to the group "I have been alienating your friend here, you won't mind if i borrow her for a second do you" , then you isolate her from the group.

THIS IS WHERE YOU BUILD RAPPORT-not before.  You only build rapport from the group before you isolate her.  Then do cold readings, commonalities, etc.  I you want to know more check out the best in the business www.mysterymethod.com  (he may be coming out with a book soon on this), if not check out www.fastseduction.com.  By the way, dont try this bar pick up theory until you have read a lot on it because you will screw up royally at first.  But the power to walk into any bar and isolate the women you desire is priceless.  

****EDIT****7/29/05**

I no longer use the mystery method and have changed my model to a pick up guru named Juggler which relies less on patterns and more on being an all round interesting person.  There is a GREAT ebook call Converstional Jujitsu by the juggler and he has a new one on his website.  He also now does workshops at http://www.charismasciences.com .  I have not taken a workshop but plan to in the future

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This is why I am unique, Frank, most charming, good looking guys telegraph way too much interest at first and extremely good looking girls are used to this and say "I already have him around my little finger--boring!".  I telegraph the opposite, ie disinterest.  Only when I have her peer groups approval do I then telegraph interest, but ONLY after she earns it through my qualification round.  I qualify her by saying stuff like(report stage) I hope your like having fun, because I don't date girls that are boring".  Then she will tell me how much fun she is etc.  I always get them to keep qualifying themselves to me. Girls will backwards rationalize that if they are qualifying themselves it must be because they like you!   The best book on the subject is at www.Realworldseduction.com.  Sometimes I will even say "Do you have anything else going for you besides your looks, because beauty is fairly common."  Then they will start to qualify themselves to me, and then I will show interest because of THESE qualities in her and not because of her beauty.  Sounds harsh but I tone it down with my voice tonality and playfulness.

NEVER QUALIFY YOURSELF TO A WOMEN, HAVE THE MINDSET THAT YOU ARE ALREADY QUALIFIED AND YOU KNOW IT.  

BE EXTROVERTED and HAVE FUN, if you are introverted (like me) fake it until you make it.  

NEVER TALK ABOUT GAME KILLER TOPICS, ie anything logical (men topics).  These topics include talking about her job/your job, weather, where she lives, goals, etc.  She will bring these up sometimes to qualify you.  for instances:

Her:  how old are you?
Hans Solo:  Old Enough!  

Her:  What do you do for a living?
Hans Solo:  Well, I am a break dancer!/ televangelist/etc   (never answer these questions directly, always be coy and playful)***edit: I have since change tactics and use more of a juggler style here.  



You want her to be as emotional as possible.  Talk about celebrities (read US/people magazine) and their drama.  I know, I could care less too but most women like this stuff.  Talk about metaphysical stuff (shouldn't be too hard for us)--women eat up astrology, tarot, esp, etc.  Funny stories, etc.

i think the book Machaveli is referring to is "More Guns Less Crime" by a Yale professor I believe.  Great book.  I am super surprised by the responses on this board.  I thought that 99% of the people here would be extreme liberals that hate guns and embrace communism/socialism.  I am closer to the views of an Ann Ryand, and am a libertarian (I also see this view here in a larger percentage than the population).

Wonders never cease,

Hans solo

Quick answer from a US citizen:

 Guns in the US were never just for hunting like the more ant-gun types would want you to think.  It was the final check in the checks and balance system of US government.  IE:  the citizen holding guns stopped the government from getting out of control too fast.  The way the Federal Government has been passing anti-constitutional laws lately, they may be need sometime in the future.  Remember: Criminals will ALWAYS have access to guns.  You will only take them out of the hands of the well intentioned.

Also,  MASS MURDERS AGREE, GUN CONTROL WORKS: (all banned guns before they slaughtered their defenseless citizens)

-Stalin
-Hitler
-Mao

 Want to end the violence in America, then end the War on Drugs.

Hans Solo

Now this is a topic I consider myself to be qualified to answer.  I am a pick up artist and well on my way to becoming a Pick up guru.  I am a member of a board at www. fastseduction.com (no, my name is not Hans Solo there).  Read everything by Tyler Durden PDF 7 on, toecutter, Mystery (go to the archive search, then find a little blue link that says Gzip archive).  AND DEFIANTLY READ TYLER 25 Points post.

The person you were referring to was David Deangleo and I am intimately familiar with his work.  However, first trying to be cocky and funny is a learning experience for most.  I would rephrase is to be 3 things : charming, cocky, and funny (most people that try this are not funny enough and come off like a**holes).  David is very cerebral but you only get good by approaching in the field.  

I have a little easier time because I am very good looking, but often because i do know David's techniques and many other women often call me a "player" (we all have our own hurdles).  

BUT the best thing you have to understand is TO BE THE MAN.
Never loose your cool.

Never supplicate (buying drinks, etc).  

Have alpha male body langue.  The easiest way I can describe this is to walk like you have a cape on and you can't let it touch the ground(walking very tall),you can't let it touch your back( you will be leaning back) and lead with your hips and not your chest (walk slowly).  In fact all your body language must be perfect (97% of all communication is body language.  Read this: http://www.fastseduction.com/discussion/)

EYE CONTACT:  will help you the most early on (along with body language)  LOOK THE GIRL DEAD IN THE EYE AND MAKE HER LOOK AWAY FIRST.  This will be very weird at first but they LOVE it, and then approach.  Don't do this and then keep doing it--that is stalkerish.


The reason I have my name here of Hans Solo is because he is the perfect character with women (along with tyler durden in fight club).  Make your reality stronger and more interesting than hers and you will always get the girl.  YOU CANT BORE A GIRL INTO FEELING ATTRACTED TO YOU! Be the adventurous bad boy.

Princess Lea:  "I love you"
Hans Solo:  "I Know"

However, If you REALLY want to get good then I suggest you learn from the best in the business.

www.mysterymethod.com
www.realsocialdynamics.com
www.badboylifestyle.com

PS.  Don't fall into the "I just wanna be myself crap".  Once you internalize these techniques and theories they WILL BE a part of you.  Only, a more confident you that now attracts the type of women he wants instead of settling, and ultimately not  choosing the life you want to live.

I feel a little foolish now.  I originally posted this in another section and i didn't see the other post.  However, now that it is moved the other post is currently like 5 away from this one  

 It just be cool to know what he is doing since he went into the after life with much more knowledge than the average "person".  Also, from what I gather time is different in the astral so It really wouldn't be like meeting a celebrity.   This is probably a very bad example, but i don't think Jesus is bothered by so many people praying to him.

PS.  Sorry I left you out from the list Major Tom.  I studiously read your post and PRACTICE your techniques.  I am making Major advancements thanks to you, Frank, and Adrian.  

hey everyone-

  This may be a stupid question, but has anyone tried to meet up with the disembodied spirit that was once Robert Monroe?  I bet he would be willing to teach the projector a thing or two, or at least show him around

  As I have not meet any guides yet I have no idea how hard this would be, but for anyone with the abilities of Frank or Adrian I bet it would be possible.

  It would be interesting to see where he ended up in the astral, or if he just goes everywhere because he knows it is possible.  It is amazing how very few people even know of Astral projecting and probably spend forever in one place.  Oh well, this thought just ran across my mind while putting his book Far Journeys on hold at the local library.

 Would be neat to hear if someone was able to run across "him".

Hans Solo

Capricorn -sun
Leo-moon
Aires-rising

Hans solo

that's not what i have heard.  For instance, nearly all horoscopes for Capricorn (earth) say that they may be drawn to the paranormal and metaphysical.  Do a google search for Capricorn metaphysical.  Hell, many of the metaphysical stores out there have Capricorn in their names!

This is just a limiting belief that needs to be expunged from your system, or else it may hold you back.

Hans Solo

Well, I got it a couple of times within that first week, but It is VERY hit or miss.  I basically got it when I was so tired (probably blood sugar levels) after work and I laid down for a nap.  However, I had stuff to do and keep pulling myself out of sleep.  That's when it happened both times.  Now I have attempted to it from absolute C1 and am having a tough time getting a deep F10 without my body wanting to pull out of it at every opportunity.  Looks like I am going to have to start the Gateway CDs, and practice like Frank says in the permanent topics.  

BTW, you can get these anywhere.  That link is only the first thing that popped up on the search engine.  However, don't get them from ebay.  I did and they aren't filled up with very much flax seed.  

PS. funny things is, when I used to practice OBE I would usually get to a deep focus 10 very near F12 (pops, bangs, voices, beeps, tones, etc) and try all sorts of rope pulling etc and immediately get out of state.  If only i knew how close I was!  --However, I never knew how to read these road signs until reading Franks Post.

This was probably sleep paralysis, and doesnt sound like kundalini at all.

Hans solo

Great thread:

 I have had a Kundalini experience, and I can already hear the outcry as why it happened.  This spontaneous experience was due to my dabbling with marijuana.  It happed probably 3 or 4 times over a couple of months.  Here is what mine felt like.

 It felt like a electrical energy RACING up my spine.  This was no "I think I feel something" sensation, but made me cringe with excitement. (at the time I did not dabble with anything mystical and had no idea what Kundalini was).  My girlfriend thought I might be going through some sort of seizure.  However, I just layed there laughing repeating over and over "god is massaging my brain!" It felt like the top of my head was surgically cut off and my brain was exposed. Then another electrical surge would go up my spine. Etc.

It happened a couple of other times in my life after smoking pot, which I don't do anymore.  (BTW, It was alway Sativa strain that made me do it).  However, I don't know if it has anything to do with these experiences, but shortly after I would always wake up in the morning and I would be covered in sweat.  Also, I could never cuddle after sex because the moment I embraced my GF my body temp would rise extremely fast and I would start to sweat.  

I know that spontaneous marijuana kundalini experiences are "dangerous", but at least now I know what to look for.  I find that with the New Agey type people that they interpret the most subtle experience as something mystical.  

For instance, they lay on their arm and their arm falls asleep.  While moving it around it starts to tingle, and then they say "Man, kundalini is going crazy in my arm".   (just having a little fun)  All I am saying is that is about as subtle has Mark McGuire hitting you in the head with a baseball bat.

Hey everyone-

 I am an extreme newbie with phasing, but I have been able to reach the 3D blackness "relatively easily" due to using an eye pillow.  When I don't use one I have a much tougher time if at all seeing this.  Mainly because after I relax my eyes they may start to open a little if they are not fully fatigued.  They may also start to "flutter" with out the weight of an eye pillow.  Also, the eye pillow blocks out any remaining light.  I think that because of the weight of an eye pillow it is more beneficial than a sleep mask.  If you don't know what an eye pillow is do a google search or check out:

http://www.apeacefulco.com/miva/merchant.mv?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=PC&Product_Code=DTEP&Category_Code=Dreamtime

Also, use silicone ear plugs (available at your nearest drug store).

Hey guys,

 I have been trying to phase for a week or so now and I had my first experience of the 3D blackness, and I am going to try and explain it the best I can for those that read this later and want to know if they are getting close.  I hope I am correct in my description of the 3D blackness and don't inadvertently set anyone back in their development.  

Ok, I am going to take it from F10 on and I don't think I noticed F15.  If you don't know what F10 is then you should first read this:

http://www.astralpulse.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=13644

1.  I was in F10 and feeling pretty tranced out.  Then, the first truly different thing I noticed is that the 2D blackness became textured.  This is tough to describe, so I am going to enlist the help of Mr. Vincent Van Gough.  Notice in this painting the texture of the night sky (the lines).  Now, the contrast was NOT as profound as found in the painting and relatively monochromatic, but you will get the idea here:

http://www.vangoghgallery.com/painting/p_0612.htm

2. Almost the moment I really started paying attention to these lines I felt a HUGE Shift.  It was like a wave came over me and I sunk into a state of "super consciousness", where my "foggy trance"  fell away and I was EXTREMELY aware.  It was like in a suspense movie were the main actor makes a profound realization and the camera zooms in on their reaction.      
I was more aware after this shift than I am in my daily C1 state (awake aware state)--basically much of the mind chatter stops.  


3.  3D blackness begins.  You become enveloped in this blackness and may start to see spots of color in the distance.  I saw 3D spots of red in the distance that look like the row (fish eggs) on a piece of sushi (but not that pronounced of color.  These spots were overlayed upon what looked like a night sky.  The main thing is with the 3D blackness is that you WILL know when you have reached this state.  Then i felt movement like I am traveling though this space.  The movement was easy to distinguish because it looked like one of those old screen savers for your computer that look like you are traveling through space.  

I got too excited at this point and went back to C1 in a matter of moments.

Well, I hope the descriptions were relate able to everyone so you will know when you are almost there.  If you "think"  you've seen the 3D blackness you probably haven't.  It is about as subtle as a bull in a china shop.

and it was dark, and i just zoomed through it. It wasn't an OBE, because it felt different, my it also felt like my conscious was there, and could direct it back to my room when ever I wanted. Is that Focus 23

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I was just about to ask this same question here.  The funny thing is the fact that my first phasing experience was EXACTLY as you describe here.  I was reading Astral Dynamics and put the book down just to nap for a few minutes, then the darkness behind my eyes opens up an i am traveling down a dark road with trees on either side and am kind of bouncing (like if i was traveling in an Army Jeep or something).  Then, i kind of shook myself out of this phase and completely woke up.  I knew the whole time where my body was, but it felt (SO FAR) away and this image complete engulfed my consciousness.  And while coming back to where I was laying on the couch my consciousness was flicking back and forth for a few moments.  Kinda strange, but that was about seven months ago and I can still remember it very vividly.

However, after reading Albert Taylors book he said when you are in the RTZ/Astral that you have magnified senses and it  feels completely real (which holds some people back because of fear).  This is why when I get sleep paralysis I get so scared before exiting because I think the "Intruder" might be there again.  So Phasing might be good because you don't feel the fright. However, this Phase, while unique, did not feel real, in fact one of my lucid dreams felt more "real".  So, if this is phasing was I at the beginning?  Would it have felt more real if I had continued with it?  Is it worth it to phase if it does not feel as real as an OBe?

Thank you
Hans Solo

I have heard people talk about this.  For Instance, some guy named Stuart Wilde talks about this and I even think he has a sound bit on his website.  Also, Red Elk (the guy thats always on Coast to Coast with Art Bell has an ebook on how to Teleport.  

THen there is this:

http://soundingcircle.com/newslog2.php/__show_article/_a000195-000636.htm