QuoteOne thing that I don't completely grasp about your theory is that this must apply to everyone who dies, suicidal or not. So if an alcoholic dies in a car crash they will still have to deal with their addiction on the other side. If an old, miserable man dies but lived a long productive life, he will still be a miserable soul. Or do only suicides get the unhappy ending of living in torment on the other side?
I hadn't read this thread till today and wasn't intending to respond until thenoob asked these questions. I prefer not to share too many personal experiences. But the specific example of alcoholism makes me think I should speak up here.
Some background info:
My father was an alcoholic and verbally abusive and extremely controlling to my brother, sister and I while we were growing up. There was some physical abuse, but nothing major (even as I write this I realize that sounds contradictory). The point is it certainly was not a childhood you would ask for, at least not in physical form.
My father died when he was 45, about 13 years ago. I hadn't seen him in years before that. When I looked at him during the viewing his entire body looked like it was painted gold. That's how far gone his liver was. He had a lot of issues from his childhood he could not deal with and turned to alcohol as a solution. While he did not actively kill himself, his decision to drink to such excess was what caused his early death. So in my opinion it was an indirect route to suicide.
Relevant Experience:
Several years ago I had considered trying to visit him while in the astral. I had spent years and years reading various texts, meditating, practicing and as a result I had my own thoughts on where he would be and what condition he was in. However, I also have experienced enough to know that I was not strong enough to try and visit him myself. I was very wary of the energy that was surrounding him. I have experienced various types of energies while out and they really can affect you if you don't know how to repel them -- and I'm not that advanced yet.
One night earlier this year, a guide brought him to visit me and we had a very long talk. I won't go in to details of the conversation, but there are certain things I want to share with you. First, even though in physical life my father was about 5 inches taller than I was, in the astral he was about 1 foot shorter than me. He looked just the same as I remembered him when I first left home for college, except shorter/smaller in proportion to his whole body (so he still had his 'beer belly'). The other thing that immediately struck me was how absolutely dirty he was. He didn't look physically dirty.....I know there are no physical bodies in the astral. But I mean I didn't 'see' dirt on him. Rather his energy or vibration or whatever you want to call it was so thick and dirty I was literally repulsed. I could feel it around him and it made me queezy. I was able to put one arm around him to hug him, but I could not bring myself to kiss him. I then quickly let go from the hug and was able to talk to him just fine as long as I wasn't too close to him.
We talked about his life and his problems. Since his death, he'd been trying to deal with them from the astral and felt he was ready to make the next step and wanted to discuss it with me. The problem he was having was not taking responsibility for his actions though. He was very frustrated because the people working with him had given him a list of things that he caused to happen through his actions while in the physical and he disagreed with a lot of the items on the list. He showed me the list and wanted me to take his side so to speak, but I couldn't do it. I told him very sincerely I forgive him for everything he had done. But that my forgiveness doesn't mean that the things didn't happen. In the end, he realized he was not ready to move up because he still was not able to see his life and his actions objectively and take responsibility for what had happened and work to identify other ways to deal with his issues.
I guess I'm giving you an actual example of what Adrian and James were trying to relay. I personally have no fear of death any longer. And that in itself is a very liberating feeling. But I have no desire to end my life before its time. I am here for specific reasons. I have figured out what a few of them are already. I know there are many others that I still need to realize/experience. And ending life now does not take away the pain, desire, frustration, fears, etc that you feel while in physical form. In fact, all of those things follow you in to the astral. And from what I understand, it takes much longer to deal with them over there than facing them here.
So transitioning to the other side to get away from what is facing you in this lifetime, only puts you in an area with other people who think and feel exactly the way you do. There will be others there, guides to help, but the bulk of people you will be surrounded by are others with similar vibrations to yours. And vibrations are based on feelings and thoughts. So while you won't deal with the physical aspects of alcoholism or other addictions or desires or fears or whatever. Each of those feelings has an energetic component as well as a physical aspect and its those energies that comprise the area in which you end up after death. The only way you are able to go beyond those types of energies is to completely free yourself of them. They simply cannot resonate at higher vibrations/levels. And the only way to rid yourself from them is to identify other, more productive ways to deal with the issues causing those feelings.
Hope this helps clarify this question.
EDIT: I also wanted to explain that the consciousness you have while in the physical body is not the same as the consciousness you have while out of body or after death. Once you have died, you gain a little bit more access to your higher self, guardian angel, spirit, whatever word you want to use. The point is that while in the physical you decide you want to die and never return. When you do cross over, there is a VERY high probability that your request will be completely forgotten. Because when you are over there, you have a broader understanding of the universe and your place in it. All of this is hidden or forgotten when you incarnate. My guess is that your soul/spirit will decide to reincarnate again and in all probability will select at least a few of the issues causing you trouble this time around to appear in the next incarnation again.