Some explanation sought.

[vgchesskid]

There's nothing wrong with that. Humans are a very horny species and that is natural. We weren't designed with marriage in mind. We aren't swans. We are more like dogs than swans. It would be fairly difficult to stop this type of situation, because you would have to learn to shut off your instincts and emotions, and that's not very healthy anyhow(I have had bad consequences). All those emotions and spiritual feelings are a bunch of crap our brain spits out to encourage us to reproduce. If sex was painful, we wouldn't have such a huge population. So, just be glad you still share some connection with this person. Unless this is hurting her somehow, it's absolutely fine. And Mr.Lucky? Who says he needs to know. hehe.

[Nagual]

Hi Softerthanair,

When you say you are meeting in the Astral... aren't you lucid?  Don't you have some control over what you can and cannot do...?

[Mustardseed]

I know that there is a possibility that you could get offended but I would like to suggest that you consider the possibility that you are the cause of the encounters!!!. It seems likely to me that you are still involved emotionally and that you maintain and facilitate the connection so to speak. It is somewhat like leaving a forwarding add. She always knows where to find you or you often go for a visit. It is entirely possible that you have a bond in the astral/spiritual, but you alone decide wheather to persue it or not. I myself being 2 times married have such a bond with someone. However I have made up my mind not to entertain it. Not in the physical or in the spiritual. I have closed that door for the sake of both of us. I suggest to you you might still have feelings for her though you pretend to be the mentor only. This is quite normal but can be very detrimental to a innocent mate and two wonderful little kids who needs stability, mum and dad and a family. You can think it over and pray or meditate or whatever you do on this . Then make your desision. Have you ever read the book "Tale of two cities?"

This is just a suggestion if I am out of line I apologise.

Regards Mustardseed

[Centa Five]

Hello Softerthanair and welcome to the Forums!  There could probably be several explanations to your quandary.  The two of you could possibly be Soul Mates, as that could explain part of it. When you said that you kind of "melted into one another" that sounded familiar to me as I have had a similar experience in the Astral.  It was a wonderful merging and although it could be described as sexual, I found that it was more than just that but was closer to an intense love that went beyond words. Anyway that was the way it felt to me.  Did she appear to you as kind of a vague "Light Being" or did she appear as her recognizable physical self?  If you are consciously projecting then it might be wise to direct yourself to a different destination or maybe stop projecting for awhile as she sounds like she is uncomfortable with the meetings in regards to her present family situation.  This might break the cycle so to speak.  If you are consciously projecting or in a Lucid Dream then you should be able to control all of your actions and may be able to avoid these contacts.

[Softerthanair]

Greetings everyone, I am a new member here and to tell you the truth I am quite glad to have found such a community in cyberspace. I myself have had my fair share of Astral journeys and other 'metaphysical' events take place in my life specially with a certain individual who I shared a close relationship with for 6 years. Now what I am trying to get at does involve this special someone and me, although her and I are no longer together as in a romantic duo we have remained close friends since. It is almost 5 years since she and I decided to take different paths in our lives. Now she has a beautiful family with two baby girls and a loving partner who provides plenty of love and understanding for them all. I have been lucky enough to still take part in her life as a close mentor and friend.
Now, what I need guidance with is that even though she and I no longer share a romantic bond we still have frequent 'meetings' in the Astral realm. That is not the problem, the thing is though that these meetings tend to be of a very sexual and intensely spiritual form and almost in every case it happens in a synchonised manner even when I was half way across the globe travelling overseas for one year. Surely enough we would dream and meet there ,feeling this incredible need to melt into eachother....I have spoken to her about this a number of times but neither her nor I know what is taking place and Why?

The situation is much easier on me than her you see she wakes up after such encounters feeling mixed emotions and feelings due to the fact that she is involved in a longterm relationship with someone. I have tried explaining to her that it may not be of a sexual nature at all but when every time we connect in the Astral plane that sexual energy is always there!

If any of you out there could perhaps share your point of view in this I would greatly appreciate any in put for consideration.
Love and respect to you all.