No more drama

[Aileron]

difficult situation that I personally have had experience in. Though it is easy to voice different solutions, its much more difficult to apply them to the situation.

You dont need magic, or psionics to figure this out.
You two definately need at least a short amount of time apart to take stock of the others needs and to come to decisions about the healthiest choice of action.


Often in this kind of situation the only way to rid that nagging attachment of negativity, is with what some may call, a final solution. Not refering in some sick way to the holocaust. Rather I am speaking of the tendancy within volatile relationships to counteract each other so often, to become so unstable, that a final conflict arises which will either bring the two together ultimately, or tear them apart.
If you are willing to allow the fates to expend their energies upon such a circumstance, all the best to you.

However, you do have the ability to influence your environment and events in your life.

For instance:

Communication. Talk to her about what problems you either see, or see happening in the future if certain methods are programmed into your relationship.

Listening. Let her talk about whatever problems she has and so forth and listen, dont just hear.

Time. Give yourselves time, whether its apart, or just to come to a decision about something.

Deviation. Use other significant and important parts of your life to concentrate on, not to use as an excuse to get away, but rather to initiate news thought patterns into your system of thought. Sometimes all it takes is a book or drawing from you or some other source to see the problems root.

Acceptance. Let her know, and yourself, that no matter what happens, its okay. You may both end up with different people, but just realize that it may be important for that. Dont get angry, or jealous, or indifferent, but instead understanding.


Other than these things my friend, I dont know what else to tell you except sometimes things just need to happen.

good luck[]

[PyroPsion69]

Wow, not what I was expecting, but very welcome advice. I'm giving her time apart, which is what she wants and what we did last time this sort of thing happened (she didn't cheat on me before) so hopefully time is going to bring us together again. I guess I'm just worried that there is going to be that one time when things don't work out. [xx(][!][V]

[Rastus]

Cheating is physical, it really is just a way to express displeaseure as opposed to an expression of Love.  Is she a Soulmate?  If not then it's just a physical relationship and doesn't have any deeper meaning.  If she's not, then what's the point of holding onto her except as a physical release?

if she is, then you will always get back together.  Soulmates compliment each other, but it is by no means a harmonious endeaver 1005 of the time.  What you lack she has and vice versa.  SoulTwins are Identical (and that has to be incredibly dull).  you can have more than one soulmate, depending on how many times you've been around the block []

[PyroPsion69]

Okay I'm a psion, not a witch (fine I am but I really don't know what I'm doing) so work with me here.

No this is not a love spell request. Repeat: not love spell.

The female it concerns is already thoroughly in love with me. The problem is, I feel like my life is seriously some kind of romance novel. I never have peace. As soon as things start to level out with us, some stupid mishap happens and sends us spiralling apart. We always (well it's never failed but I'm afraid one time it might) end up back together, but it takes so much time and energy and leaves both of us emotionally exhausted.

I guess I'm looking for something to smooth out the bumps a little. Yes I know that's like looking for the philosopher's stone (hey harry potter did it yaay []) but I was wondering what one might be able to do. Thanks