How did you meet your SO?

[Heather B.]

I guess I'm looking for inspiration, hehe! You see, I'm beginning to think about dating again and... I feel so clueless!  

I've tried various online dating sites--that is how I originally met Patrick.  It's not nearly as fun or as effective as it was the first time around.  I'm finding it a waste of time and energy.  I did find one guy I saw a few times, and he was a good guy, but we had no chemistry.

So... I think I'll try to meet someone the "old-fashioned" way.  The hard part is making myself get out of my apartment!  Still being relatively new to this area doesn't help.  I don't know where to go or what to do. *sigh*  And then, say I do meet someone who interests me... how do I let him know I'm single, available, interested?  And how do I determine if the same is true for him (aside from whether he's in a woman's company, has a wedding ring, etc.?)

Ugh, I'm so inexperienced!!!    I'm trying to just stay optimistic, give serendipity a chance, be open-minded, not have too many expectations, etc., but... it's not easy.

[Nay]

LOL!!  By your nic alone I thought you were about to be married!

Perhaps you are a little over enthusiastic?  That can turn a lot of guys off.  The minute I resigned to live out the rest of my life in a un-happy marriage, was the minute I found my knight in shining white armor!  Seriously...I truly had, in my soul, resigned that I would make the best of my situation to only have my situation turn for the better and it hasn't stopped.

One thing I think about though, is I seemed to have never lived for myself or by myself.  I say take time off to just live with yourself!  Enjoy having your own space...You go girl!  :peace:

Take Care,
Nay

[Heather B.]

Thanks, Nay!  :thumbsup:

I hear a lot that love and happiness often show up when we least expect them--I am so glad that happened for you!  And that is why I am trying to not have too many expectations.  In reality, though, I am probably too anxious.  So, I probably should relax and just enjoy my "single" life while I still have it, hehe!  

About the nic, it refers to my nearly getting to marry my late fiance, Patrick.

Which reminds me that I could really use a new nic, if that is possible (or would I have to start a new account?)...  At the time, when my loss was so fresh, I felt like I would always, for all my life, identify myself with him, you know?  But that has changed a lot over the months, in ways I never could have imagined!
:sunny:

[Nay]

You can PM Adrian about the name change, he'll do it for you.

I totally understand, and it's so great that you are shining so brightly after such an emotional situation, wtg!

Make new friends and have a blast, then PM me with all the details..hehehe..

Nay

[Lighthouse]

Hello!

I just went through a year of HELL getting over a guy.  The moment I let him go and looked around at what I did have, I was like "Holy Sh*t!!!  What a dumbass I've been!"  I looked with new eyes at what I DO have and what I have is far better than any fantasy I have about a dude from the past.  I realized that all I had to do was open my eyes and what I had been looking for all along has what I had in my best friend.

Kerri

[Heather B.]

Kerri, thank you for sharing your story--excellent advice for others!  

Nay, thanks for the info and advice!  I'll let you know how things go! :mrgreen: